Lying is a cooperative act.” That’s what Pamela Meyer, author of Liespotting likes to say, and in the case of two-timers and cheaters, she’s right on the money: we want to believe the people who have seen us naked. Sadly, that means anyone who's Googled “how to tell if you’re being lied to” (guilty) is 50 percent of the problem. You know dang well they're lying, boo! You just don't want to.
Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception, $9, Amazon
Relationship blind spots are very real, and all the best liars know it: Henry Oberlander (who Meyer brings up in her TED talk and who was an extremely successful con artist in the 1930s), said his one rule for manipulating people was knowing that “everyone is willing to give you something for whatever it is they’re hungry for.” For those crazy loons among us who just want love and trust (CRAZY, right?), that can make seeing the truth difficult—especially if dealing with it means cutting off your source of that love and trust.
It can be extra be confusing when you're not even sure what you're getting out of a situation. Why do we feel compelled to stick around with people we don’t quite believe? Why is it easier to buy sweet talk than hard evidence? Why does sneaking into a club disguised as a bellydancer ever seem like a thing that could work out well? Once you know what you want to hear, at least according to Meyer, you’ll do a much better job of sussing out the truth.
With that said, lies do serve a purpose in our relati
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Description : Lying is a cooperative act.” That’s what Pamela Meyer, author of Liespotting likes to say, and in the case of two-timers and cheaters, she’s...